Online dating is NOT a time saver!

Okay wow. So those people who say they online date because they are too busy to meet people? Omg. I feel it is my responsibility to denounce once and for all that misconception. "In-person dating", if you will, usually consists of meeting someone who piques your interest and arranging a date, coffe or what have you. Then, if you hit it off you go on more of these dates, if you don't you probably cease contact with the person. Simple. You can meet potential dates at work, at the gym, heck even at the grocery store, whatever you do throughout your week. It hardly adds any extra time at all, and a date once a week is like what, an hour?

Okay, now lets turn to online dating. Because online dating introduces people through sites specifically designed for that purpose, a lot of the people you meet are "date-hunters." They peruse their matches daily and contact anyone they find interesting or attractive. I assume. So, you're not just meeting the odd potential date that you'd have to see once a week or so, you're being messaged by several people with very direct purposes. Since I started this blog I have recieved 46 messages and had probably 6 IM conversations. My time investment is much higher than it would be for in-person dating. Although I guess the pay-off is my odds have also greatly increased. Anyways, I'll give you a brief recap of the potential dates I have to juggle. There are three who message me on a regular basis:

Nate-You met him last post. Well he's back messaging me now, probably on a daily basis about anything and everything, mostly to do with writing and literature. He's a good, intellectual conversationalist. He's also 28. He's the first of my ongoing communications.

Tom-He's new. Well, sort of. He started messaging me Jan. 14. He has the opposite problem as Nate; he's 19. I feel like a cougar..or cradle robber. He's friendly, outgoing and flirtatious, but we don't really have a lot in common. Still, he's fun to talk to.

Michelle-She just started messaging me yesterday, but they've been long messages. She's the person I've enjoyed talking to the most so far. She's a grammar nerd which is kind of fun. I haven't heard from her yet today, which is sad.

Then of course there are the random messages that make you feel slightly uncomfortable. They're trying, but in an awkward way. I reply, because I'd feel bad if I didn't, but it's usually a short response that doesn't really invite a lot of further conversation. Those communications usually die down pretty fast. Frankly, I don't have time to carry on constant communication with six people.

Anyways, back and forth messaging is about as saucy as it gets at this point in time. I'm sorry! They aren't even sexy messages. They are mostly lit-nerdy messages except with Tom - we talk about soup.

Oh, except for there is this one guy who "woo"ed me, whatever that means. I messaged him being like "lol what?" and haven't heard back. That was a day or so ago.

Aaand don't forget the sex solicitors. Luckily I've only encountered two who were openly pursuing a "casual encounter" as OkCupid calls it. Yes, yes, I know my profile says I am looking for that, but that doesn't mean I'm looking for someone to say "Meet me at 3:30 for a roll in the hay." It just means if I met someone who was cute, smart and funny, I'd probably boink them. I mean, just because someone puts they're looking for long-term dating doesn't mean they're going to attach themselves to the first person that messages them.